Cheating Uncensored
Experts in the area of physiology, see chronic infidelity as a condition that can be treated. Their job is to dig deep into the mind of the cheater and figure out where they are broken, and how to fix them. For anyone who has ever been cheated on, the old adage, once a cheater always a cheater, is a very real concern.
People who cheat will give reasons for their infidelity, that in their minds, justify their actions. Rarely do they see what they do as a break within their own character. There always seems to be a valid circumstance attached to their cheating. The circumstances that they describe as their reasoning, completely justifies their actions to the point that it makes cheating a logical choice. This makes any glimmer of guilt, that they may experience, a secondary emotion that they can rationalize away.
For some people it is as simple as having been raised by parents, or a parent who cheated on each other, and in doing so they sent a very powerful message to their children, that cheating is normal, or an acceptable thing to do. This is an especially hard perception to change if there were no consequences to the infidelity.
For those people who do not see cheating as bad unless you get caught, the act of being unfaithful is always an option in any relationship. The people who fall into this group seem to have common denominators that make it likely for them to continue this behavior for the rest of their life. The writing is on the wall for all to read, it is just a matter of the person standing in front of that wall, being willing to read it and take heed.
Avoid getting into a committed relationship with anybody who admits to having cheated on every partner they have ever been with, no matter what they say the reasons were.
Watch out for those people who believe that the best way to get over a past lover is finding a new lover. The getting over part usually starts happening before the physical break from the other person takes place, and usually without the other person’s knowledge that there is a break coming at all.
Another red flag is somebody who is not willing to acknowledge that kissing, holding hands, and more than casual flirting, is cheating. Those are intimacies that do cross the boundaries of monogamy. The people who consistently cross those boundaries will be willing to cross other boundaries in the future.
The biggest risk are those who feel that they have an emptiness within themselves. They are drawn to the consuming emotions of a new love interest, are not likely to remain satisfied with one person for very long once the relationship becomes established.